Is it normal to feel weird after your first time

It can happen to you and it does change a lot about your life. This is it? I guess I was just expecting to feel more adult.

I thought it would help me quiet the anxiety and just get it over with, but now I understand that needing to drink was actually a blaring signal that I was not ready, and that he was not the right person. It took seven times before I started to feel something remotely enjoyable. I'm glad I kept with it! So I would have told myself to stop worrying that it hadn't happened yet. You'll be so glad you waited until you were obsessed with someone, someone you could trust and giggle and high-five through it.

The first two boys I slept with both had major performance anxiety and shared my pregnancy paranoia. It's also OK to keep it between you and your partner, assuming it's a healthy relationship. I thought I had to hit every base first, with sex as the finale or something. Now I know that I can do a lot or a little with a partner, and it's completely up to me. I don't have to feel pressured to make sure he finishes. My first time did hurt, but in a way I couldn't have anticipated.

I was super aware of this foreign object inside of me, poking into my internal organs…or so it felt. Now I know better about the anatomy of the situation, but it was all I could think about at the time. It felt like absolutely nothing to me, like someone touching my leg.

I was all smile-y and quiet and sharing looks with my BF, like ' Can people see we just had sex? We talked about waiting until marriage, but one night, it just happened. I was completely at ease the entire time, and he made sure I felt comfortable and loved. Having sex actually brought us closer together as a couple. We shared an intimate moment neither one of us had experienced before, and he couldn't have been more considerate about my feelings.

I now know I can trust him completely, and we're still very much in love. I thought I was in love at the time, but everything changed after we had sex. He grew completely distant and didn't seem to care about maintaining our relationship. I found out he had bragged to all his friends about 'sealing the deal,' and we broke up shortly after.

We were completely honest with one another for the five months we dated before having sex—we shared secrets we hadn't told anyone else. We felt really connected to each other, so I knew the time was right, and we're still together now! I broke up with him a few weeks later because, as it turns out, he was in love with my best friend the whole time.

I don't regret it because I was emotionally prepared for the experience, but I wish I had known he was using me to get to my friend before we had sex. He had recently broken up with me, and I thought having sex would bring us back together. About a week later, his relationship status on Facebook changed from 'single' to 'in a relationship' with a girl I had never heard of before. I felt completely used, and immediately regretted my decision to sleep with a guy who clearly didn't care about me.

She regrets that she cannot enter into personal correspondence. Submissions are subject to our terms and conditions: see gu. Comments on this piece are premoderated to ensure discussion remains on topics raised by the writer. Please be aware there may be a short delay in comments appearing on the site. I had sex for the first time and now I feel disgusted and ashamed. I pretended to enjoy it, but it was uncomfortable. You must also be aware of the legal age of consent in your state.

You can find out more information from Youth Law Australia. If you notice that they seem uncomfortable, slow down and check if they're still enjoying themselves. Another factor in being ready for sex is being aware of how intoxicated you or the other person is. Substances can affect a person's ability to give consent, and increase the chances of doing something risky, such as not using protection.

If you engage in any sexual activity with someone who is unable to give consent it is sexual assault or rape. If you want further advice, discover our group chat on being ready for sex , or find support at a local headspace centre.