Most Nigerian men want to see that you are skilled in one form or the other. They want a hardworking business oriented lady who can contribute positively to their lives.
They want a woman who can stand on her own should the need arise. You should be someone who can be of help and support; a lady who is not afraid to step out and make an honest living.
Learn a skill or two and get your hands busy; it ups your chances of getting a Nigerian man to propose. Nigerian men want women who bring more than child bearing hips to the table. Every once in a while men need their space just some time to be alone. Show you are capable of letting him have a moment to himself.
Other times, he may want just the company of his friends to catch up and just be a guy. Be understanding and let him have his time to unwind. Good sex with a Nigerian man may score you points. But these points are cheap ones. Being good in bed and lacking in other basic areas may keep a Nigerian man but only for a while when it all wears off, he will walk; simply because there are thousands of women who can also please him sexually.
So you need to bring more than sex to the table. Many Nigerian men have been known to abandon ladies who they have had sex with and married others who they consider pure and untouched. Do not become somebody you are not for the sake of a marriage proposal. You may end up unhappy and full of regrets. These points will most likely set you on the right track.
But once again, there is no sure way to get a Nigerian man to propose, if you push him too hard or try to force it he will definitely feel pressured and a typical man will run away. But you can try these out and hope for the best. Before working so hard in carrying out your various strategies to convince a man to propose, be absolutely sure that there is a relationship.
To avoid misunderstanding and waiting in vain, be sure you are both headed in the same direction and have similar plans. Be sure that sacrifices and compromises are not one sided. Both partners in a relationship should equally put in effort to making it work. You should be certain of the Nigerian man in question and his character as well. These days, social media can be used as a gauge for affection between people. With so many platforms available for sharing, it is unlikely [although possible] that someone would really be in love with you and not share it on one of those platforms.
Of course, that is quite inconclusive so there might be need to pay a little more observation here. So, if for example, there have been several office events, many occasions that required him to go with a companion but he does ever take you, it may be because he wants to appear single and very willing to mingle at those events, or to be able to go with his real partner. Again we get to the issue of the opportunistic knacks.
As a matter of fact, this might just be the reason why he is even making the little attempts to stay in touch and keep you around. Hence, whenever he manages to create little time, [or sometimes after you have pestered him for a date or hangout] he wants not much else asides touching and torching that body as much as he can. We would love to hear what you think about the content on Pulse. Welcome to the Pulse Community! We will now be sending you a daily newsletter on news, entertainment and more.
Also join us across all of our other channels - we love to be connected! Authors: Ayoola Adetayo. October 19, AM. How to know if a man really rates you or if you are just a joke to him. She didn't offer to split the bill, so I had to give up my wristwatch to balance the fee. She even refused to date me afterwards. He felt used, but that expectation of a follow-up date reveals something about the dynamic of a dating relationship where money is involved.
For some men there may also be an expectation of sex and women also feel that pressure. Ms Kanu blames men for perpetuating traditional ideas of female dependency. She says she found it difficult to have a relationship when she insisted on paying her way. Psychologist Ann Uramu, in her mids, is single and often goes on dates. I don't allow anyone to spend too much on me.
As Nigerians move on from the Stingy Men Association social media trend, Ms Uramu suggests relationships should be based on pure affection. Love isn't selfish, so both parties should respect and support each other. Ms Kanu agrees that it should be a true partnership where "money and sex shouldn't be the only things on offer". Parents also have a responsibility to shift attitudes and "train their children to see things differently. The re-orientation has to start from home", the fashion designer says.
That could, however, take some time, but things are changing. So many women take care of themselves financially and even support their men," she says. A quick guide to Nigeria.
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